The truth about Texas
I'm often trying my best to regale you, gentle freader, with happy or hilarious stories of Texas.
"Look at what a fun time I'm having," my posts say between the lines. "New experiences are exciting!"
But really, I've only made one friend, and he's from work so does that even still count? Being so far away from everything and everybody I love starts feelings pretty lonely and isolating. Sometimes I feel like the emails I send to people back home sound like "I need a friend I need a friend I need a friend." and the replies are like "well... okay, but I've kind of already got lots of friends HERE... we can continue to send casual and infrequent emails until you return, how about? And when you get back we'll be real friends again."
And while I DO have lots of besties that I feel I still communicate well with, even over distance (including the ultimate long distance tri-friend-rangle of OtherLisa-Meags-Me) there's a difference between having friends you can call up or email to update them on how work is going and having friends that you can just split a tub of Ben and Jerry's with while lying on their bed watching Josie and the Pussycats. Because you know what, splitting a tub of B&J only works when you have somebody to split it with, am I right?
Laura, I miss watching Heroes with you SO MUCH. We watched EVERY SINGLE episode of season 1 and 2 together and now its Season 3 I have nobody to gasp with when we find out who Sylar's real mother is! Unless I watch with my roommate who has never watched before, and then it goes like this. Pause. "HRG is Clare's dad." Unpause. Pause. "Not her real dad, she's adopted." Unpause. Pause. "It means Horn Rimmed Glasses." Unpause. Pause. "He's a good guy." Unpause. Pause. "Well, that's subjective." Unpause.
I have not much patience for people whose complaints are not followed by action items, so here are mine:
- join that soccer team you were going to join
- go to that concert you were going to go to
- gchat laura while watching heroes so you can gchat gasp together
- put Ben and Jerry's in a bowl, so that there is an end point. Otherwise yeah, you'll eat the whole thing
- go to that "new in town?" thing from meetup.com even though it looks hella lame
10 comments:
LOVE the action items. Way to not just complain but try to make things better. It's definitely rough moving to a new place, especially if you know you won't be there forever.
At least you know it's temporary. I'm glad you at least have a plan. I hope that you start meeting more people!
i'm super impressed you have a plan. when i'm pissy it never occurs to me to DO anything about it. so... well done you :-)
Plan is good. Ive moved about a bit and there are lots of times you stop and look around and think, oh im still on my own' but it gets better. Better with the plan.
Work friends totally count. You meet friends where you spend your time, whether that's work or school or whatever. Friends are friends.
I think you're doing great. It's really hard to pick up and move to a new place.
Trying to explain Heroes to someone who doesn't normally watch Heroes is probably the most infuriating thing ever.
That's a pretty brilliant idea about the Ben & Jerry's.
Then again, sometimes I really prefer to eat the whole damn thing.
I'm so glad you have action items that will make it better for you!
From a first time comment-er: I have been in Tex-ass for just shy of 3 months now, and well, I feel for you. I have lived in a lot of places in this country, just never anywhere in the south. It's at least a little strange here. Lonely too, and I have a hub and a little one with me. Not sure we can make this the home we had hoped for. Might just head for Canada next....
You always manage to impress me, so just hang in there, okay? Maybe you'll have a list of things that make you sorry to leave when your time comes.
I agree--Nothing really beats friends you can actually meet up with and chat over large glasses of wine! Hope you meet some people through your soccer team, etc.
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